December 31, 2013

2013

4
roommates
places lived
road trips

3
girls
moves
jobs

2
schools
wards
talent show numbers

1
more revolution around the sun

November 23, 2013

If marriage isn't for me, then maybe I don't want it.

I don’t always write about love on my blog, but when I do, it’s usually subtle or cryptic.  That’s not really the case here.


A while back I noticed that a number of my friends shared a blog post on Facebook called “Marriage isn't for you.”  After first reading it, I didn't like it.  After reading it carefully a few more times and taking time to think about it, I still don’t like it.

Before continuing, let me give some context and disclaimers.  The author is married.  The only people I recall that shared and extolled his article are married.  I am single.  Perhaps my views are skewed by my current relationship status.  Perhaps the views of the author of the article are skewed by his.

There are many things in the article that I agree with, but I think the main point holds some scary implications.

So basically, the message I got from reading the blog was that if I want to get married, and I’m not married, then it’s my fault.  I should have just gotten over myself in previous failed relationships and worked harder at making my potential spouse happy.  Even if I wasn't into the girl that much.  After all, it’s not about me or what I want, right?

OK, maybe I took it too far in that last paragraph.  The author clarifies his stand by adding another element:  “love and marriage isn't for you.”  Looking past the grammatical error, we see that love is part of the equation.  After all, if I’m not into a girl that much, I don’t suppose I love her.

That being said, I think that it’s completely fine to want to marry someone because it will make you happy.  2 Nephi 2:25: “Adam fell that men might be; and men are, that they might have joy.”  (I think it’s relevant to quote Mormon scripture here because the author of the blog post is a Mormon, as am I.)  Mormon doctrine teaches that one of the main purposes of this life is to get married and start a family; according to the scripture, another big one is having joy.  The article makes it seem like you’re selfish if loving someone has ever made you happy.

A close friend told me recently that he believes everyone deserves someone who is crazy about them, as far as relationships go.  I agree.  I want to be madly in love with my wife, and I want her to be madly in love with me.  (Wanting this is what’s helped me get through rough patches of unrequited love.)  I'm not naive enough to think that it will be like that in every moment throughout a relationship - I know that there are rough patches.  But "crazy about each other" should be the default.  The blog’s author would probably say that if this isn't the case for either or both parties, you can get married and things will work out if you try hard enough.  Sure, that might produce a functional and even successful marriage, but it wouldn't make me happy.  I don’t want that.

Also, fulfilling someone else’s needs so fully and neglecting your own (as described in the article) could probably result in all sorts of social and psychological identity issues.  The needs of both individuals should be met, and each should focus on improving the relationship between the two, not exclusively on the need of the other one.

Do I have to be married to be happy?  No.
Will getting married increase my happiness?  I certainly hope so!
Will I marry someone because I want to make them happy?  Yes.
Will I marry someone because it will make me happy?  Yes.

October 23, 2013

Punctuality

Punctuality is a huge thing for me. I can't stand being late - I'd rather be 20 minutes early than 5 minutes late. I try my best to be punctual so that I don't inconvenience others, and I get pretty upset when I am inconvenienced by having to wait for them. I know patience is a virtue - it's something I need to work on.

That being said, the plot of the most recent episode ("The Late Show") of one of my favorite shows (Modern Family) centered on everyone being late for a dinner appointment. It made me cringe! I had an uneasy feeling throughout the whole episode. BUT, it was also hilarious, as usual. I had a hard time keeping my laughs silent in the library where I watched it. You can see it here: http://www.hulu.com/watch/545322.

Kudos, Modern Family, for your excellent writers and humor!

August 30, 2013

My favorite BYU classes

This summer I graduated from BYU with a degree in neuroscience. (Disclaimer: just because I studied brains doesn't mean I have one.) I recently moved back home to start classes at the University of Houston. The motivation behind this post is probably all the saudade I've been feeling after leaving Provo.

I took 60+ classes at BYU.  These are my top 15, in order:

15.  HONRS 150 - University Writing (Honors)
"Processes of writing, reading, and research with an emphasis on argumentation and rhetorical analysis."

This was actually the first class I attended on my very first day of college. It's been a while, but I do remember learning that writing can actually be enjoyable (an attitude I didn't have in high school). A highlight was tracking down and speaking with an artist who has several sculptures on BYU's campus; it was for a paper I wrote analyzing one of his works. Plus we met in the Maeser Building, which is classy.

14.  DANCE 180 - Beginning Social Dance
"Traditional and popular ballroom dance; also social skills."

One of the biggest regrets about BYU I have is that I didn't give myself enough time to take more dance classes. BYU's dance program is fantastic - I highly recommend this class.

13.  NEURO 481 - Neuroscience Laboratory
"Exposure to classical/modern experiments in neuroscience."

This was one of the final classes in my major; I found it enjoyable (not something typically associated with BYU labs). Highlights were preparing/staining slides of brains and helping with research on lab rats.

12.  FLANG 330R - Advanced Language & Culture: Guarani
"Study of target language culture(s) using interpersonal, presentational, and interpretive skills in the target language."

This class was a blast - I hung out with mission buddies and talked about Paraguay. Seriously, how many other universities teach Guarani classes!? Unfortunately I didn't have as much time as I wanted to dedicate to this class, so I don't remember much... but I got 16 credits from the language exam! (Bragging note: I used inter-library loan for a project in this class. The book was about vikings in Paraguay.)

11.  BIO 370 - Bioethics
"In-depth lecture and small group discussion of varied bioethical issues. LDS Church positions emphasized when appropriate."

The small lab groups in this class were awesome - I had an amazing TA, and we watched a relevant episode of Star Trek about every other week. The subject matter was fascinating; if the lecture portion of this class had been better, I would rank it much higher.

10.  PSYCH 370 - Sensation and Perception
"Sensory basis of perception and principles of perceptual organization."

Fascinating class - particularly relevant to me as half the lectures were about vision. It helped me appreciate how incredible our senses are and how we interact with the world around us. And the professor was goofy (in a good way).

9.  PWS 340 - Genetics
"Genetic mechanisms, their fundamental nature, interactions, and applications to human affairs. Genetics in quantitative terms. Extensive practice in problem solving."

Wow - such a cool class. The professor was hilarious and I loved learning about genetics, even though the class met in the MARB. It just clicked with me for some reason, and I did very well. If I had the chance to start college all over again, I might choose genetics for a career path.

8.  NEURO 360 - Neuroanatomy
"Functonal anatomy of the human brain and spinal cord, including surface and cross-sectional gross anatomy, microscopic anatomy, and sensory, motor, and integrative systems' circuitry."

I believe my professor for this class is the best lecturer/educator I've ever had. Deeply intriguing, very useful course material. I feel like this class prepared me more for the field of neuroscience than the initial class for my major. Also, we dissected sheep brains!

7.  SPAN 329 - Survey of Hispanic Linguistics
"Introduction to linguistics of Spanish: phonetics, phonology, morphology, syntax, semantics, history of the Spanish language, philology, dialectology, sociolinguistics, and psycholinguistics."

Passionate teacher + small class size + cool subject matter = terrific course. A lot of foreign-serving returned missionaries think "I just got back from my mission, and I have no idea what to do with the rest of my life, but I speak another language now, so I think I'll major in linguistics." According to my Career Explorations teacher, that doesn't usually work out too well. However, my love of linguistics was developed before I served a mission, and I seriously considered it as a major.

6.  PHY S 100 - Physical Science
"Conceptual lectures and demonstrations of the most significant and universal laws and models describing the physical world by faculty from the Physics and Astronomy, Chemistry and Biochemistry, and Geology departments."

This is one of the easiest classes I've ever taken. Frankly, I think I could have tested out of this class because I covered all the material (and in more depth) during high school. I took it because it was a required general education class, and at the time I didn't know what I was going to major in. (Later I took more advanced classes needed for my major that would have waived this class.) But I love the physical sciences! My professor for this class was not LDS, but did a better job than most of my LDS professors at incorporating spiritual topics into the course material. Physical Science 100 ranks so high because during the last half of my time at BYU, I worked as a TA for this class, and I loved every minute of it (except maybe grading homework). My coworkers became close friends, and teaching the students in this capacity was probably the most meaningful educational experience I had at BYU.

4 & 5.  PSYCH 111 - General Psychology and PSYCH 210 - History of Psychology
"Basic course in modern scientific psychology."
"Overview of psychological thinking from Ancient Greece to the present. Emphasizes a critical stance toward the assumptions and implications of major psychological theories."

These classes are ranked so high not because of the subject, but because of the teacher (same for both). He ties for my number one favorite professor ever. Any attempt to describe how great his teaching philosophy and style were would do them injustice. It's enough to say that he significantly shaped my worldview and approach to science in general.

3.  MUSIC 201 & 202 - Civilization: Music (Honors)
"History of civilization from Greek antiquity through the present day, primarily from perspective of musical literature and the arts; exploring fundamental questions in human experience; examining formative events in history; understanding value of important texts."

This is basically one class spread across two semesters, so I'm counting it as one on this list. These were the most challenging classes of my freshman year, but I loved them. (Some of the tests took ~5 hours to complete, no joke.) Perhaps I'm peculiar in that I'm a science major who values and loves the humanities. For a long time I considered majoring in music.

2.  PDBIO 220 - Human Anatomy (with lab)
"Structure and function of the human body. Lab included."

This class is notoriously challenging, but also regarded as one of the best classes offered at BYU; I agree. The complex miracle that is our bodies fills me with gratitude, awe, and humility. The cadaver lab was a reverent place; I considered it holy ground as we studied the literally selfless gifts of the deceased. I think I heard that BYU has the largest anatomy program with a cadaver lab for undergraduates. I'm realizing this is a huge blessing as I'm encountering people at optometry school who had to work with animal cadavers or none at all.

1.  IHUM 260 - Humanities of Latin America
"Achievements of Latin American culture regarding art, philosophy, literature, and music from the pre-Columbian era to the present."

The professor for this course ties as my most favorite professor (see numbers 4 & 5) - he had an equally important influence on my perspective of life and learning. Also, he's probably the coolest teacher and most "in touch" with students that I can think of. Again, more humanities (which I love), just focused on a specific culture (which I love). Sometimes I think I chose the wrong major - despite the large number of humanities students studying in the class, I had the highest grade through most of the semester. I learned how to appreciate literature in this class. Also, the requirements for this class forced me to get a Twitter account. (Follow me! @danmcintosh5) We had weekly writing assignments for this class that we posted to a personal blog. Click here to see my blog!

I did not include Men's Chorus on this list, even though I technically took this "class" for four semesters. The BYU Men's Chorus is the country's largest male collegiate choir. It's not an academic course, so I didn't put it in the list. But if I had, it would be in 1st place, along with the director as my favorite teacher. My membership in this choir was the most emotionally and spiritually meaningful experience at BYU. Much of my testimony is built on what I learned from singing in that choir. I feel like being in the choir helped prepare me more for my mission than my Mission Prep class did. I was blessed to be able to sing in General Conference twice, take trips to Las Vegas and St. George, and sing beautiful music with my brothers.



August 19, 2013

Places I will miss

"It's hard to say goodbye to the place you've lived.
It can be as hard as saying goodbye to a person."
Jonathan Safran Foer (from Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close)

"No matter how you get there or where you end up,
humans beings have this miraculous gift to make that place home." 
Creed Bratton (on the finale of The Office)

~

Chatsworth Townhouses
(especially C2, C3, C7, S2, S5, and everything in between)

Cinemark Movies 8
(the dollar theater)

Rock Canyon

the swimming pool at The Avenues

the Provo Library

the Provo Tabernacle

the Mercado Latino on 300 South

the parking garage on 100 West
(rooftop concerts)

Seven Peaks

BYU campus:
the HFAC, for wonder
the SWKT, for church
the ESC, for science
the MOA, for solitude
the HBLL, for knowledge (and night games)
the JFSB, for beauty
the MLBM, for childhood
the MP, for dinosaurs

the Arctic Circle in Orem

North Park
(night games)

Heritage Halls
(especially Estella Spilsbury Harris Hall and the Creamery)

The Museum of Ancient Life

wherever Ammon is/was living

the stream and trail at the south end of BYU campus

the Missionary Training Center

the flag store

the homes of my extended family

Trafalga

Mount Timpanogos

Craig's Cuts

the Smith's on Freedom Boulevard

Deseret Industries

the BYU Bookstore

the Riverwoods
(or "Riverbottoms" as I like to call it)

Historic Downtown Provo

my mission president's home

Provo Canyon

the 7-11 on 500 North

July 10, 2013

Dan Quixote


"You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness."
-Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close

During my mission to Paraguay, one of my companions had to make a trip to the hospital. After the appointment, we decided to have lunch in the hospital's cafeteria. They had one of those low-set freezers with the slide-open top, filled with all sorts of individually wrapped popsicles, ice cream sandwiches, and other frozen treats. Dessert sounded good, so I walked over, slid the lid open, and weighed my options.

My earliest childhood friend and his family gave me a nickname – “Danny Q.” To this day I have no idea how it originated… it’s just what they called (and still call) me. Not too long ago I decided that the Q stands for Quixote.

Anyone who’s been grocery shopping with me or seen me try to order food at a restaurant can tell you how long it often takes me to make up my mind. This decision in the hospital was no different – I studied all my options, carefully considering the available selection of treats, their prices, my personal taste, my hunger level, and amount of disposable funds. It took me literally 3-4 minutes to pick something.

I recently learned the hard way that what I once thought was being true to a glorious quest was in reality as useless as attacking windmills. How am I supposed to know when reaching for the unreachable star is commendable and noble or just impractical and unrealistic? 

When I finally returned to the table where my companion was sitting, he asked me, “Elder McIntosh, how are you ever going to choose a wife?!”

"Dreams die hard and you hold them in your hands long after they turn to dust."
-Bowen (Dennis Quaid), DragonHeart

And so I joined Cyrano and Luke at the wrong corner; turns out I was Harry the whole time. What purpose do I have in sharing these things? I don’t know… catharsis, probably. Will the world be better for this? I think so – I've definitely learned some things. Quests are difficult and tiring, but I’ve got to be willing to march into hell for the heavenly cause, because it's worth it. And the world is a pretty terrific place.



June 2, 2013

Revenge and Brackets

I'm a big fan of filmmaker Christopher Nolan - I think his movies are brilliant. Ironically, many of his films tend to be visually and thematically dark. One of these dark films, The Prestige, happens to be a favorite of mine. I consider it a high-quality example of cinematic art. Coming from a culture that values "anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy," I have encountered several people who don't like this movie based on its bleak and sinister premise.


Because I have been taught the importance of being careful about the media that we experience, I gave the matter some thought. Most of the darkness in this film revolves around the theme of revenge. As far as I can tell, the lessons and morals taught in this movie are in harmony with true principles (whether strictly religious or not): revenge and pride often lead to sadness and self-destruction, obsessions are mentally unhealthy, etc. I bounced these ideas off friends, and we considered other movies that deal with revenge.


The Count of Monte Cristo is an enjoyable, well-made film and I imagine that most people would consider it less dark than The Prestige. HOWEVER, I believe that the principles taught in this movie do not reflect reality. It seems to teach that you can waste your whole life seeking revenge against those who have wronged you, and God will support you if your cause is "just" and everyone lives happily ever after. (I've never read the book, but I hear that it has a more correct moral of the story.)


So, which do you prefer - what do you let your children watch? A grim movie that teaches truth, or a nicer, lighter movie that teaches the incorrect philosophies of men?

On a completely different note, check out this incredibly clever paragraph about the use of brackets from Wikipedia's article on the punctuation marks:

"Parentheses may be nested (generally with one set (such as this) inside another set). This is not commonly used in formal writing (though sometimes other brackets [especially square brackets] will be used for one or more inner set of parentheses [in other words, secondary {or even tertiary} phrases can be found within the main parenthetical sentence])."

May 8, 2013

Correlation

Last month my blog received more pageviews than it had in any other month of its existence.  I wondered why, and thought there might be a strong correlation to the number of posts published that month.  So, being a good scientist, I made a graph.  Here's a scatter plot showing the number of pageviews my blog had in a month (y axis) based on the number of posts I made that month (x-axis).

I used Excel to find the regression line:

y = 43.132x + 24.869

This means that in months that I don't post anything, I can expect about 25 pageviews.  For months that I do publish things, I can expect about 43 pageviews per post on top of the 25.

But being a good scientist, I also realize that there are other variables that I haven't accounted for.  Sometimes I "promote" certain blog posts on Facebook, Twitter, and Google +.  I didn't account for that - oh well.



Optometry

For those who don't know already, I've been accepted into the University of Houston's College of Optometry (hooray!).  Upon hearing that I want to become an optometrist, many people ask, "Is it because you wear glasses?"  This always seems like a silly question to me.  Do people become doctors because they occasionally get sick?  Do people become dentists because they've had a cavity?  Do people become mechanics because they've had a car break down?

Many factors influenced my career decision.  While some reasons are more personal, the following stats should do a great job at explaining "Why optometry?"

#12 on the list "Best Jobs in America" (2012) by CNNMoney & PayScale.com
#20 on the list "Highest Paying Jobs" (2010) by CNNMoney & Payscale.com
#8 on the list "Best Jobs of 2013" by CareerCast.com (as quoted by cnbc.com and Forbes)
#10 on the list "Best Paying Jobs of the Future" by The Huffington Post
On the list "Best Jobs for 2013 and Beyond" by AOL Jobs
On the list "Best Jobs for Investigative People" by USNews Careers
US Bureau of Labor Statistics says that employment of optometrists will increase 33% from 2010-2020 ("much faster than average")

Some good descriptions of the career:
ExploreHEALTHCareers.org
USNews Careers

April 13, 2013

I have a Bacon number!

I think most people are familiar with the '6 degrees of separation' theory. If you're not, look it up.  Related to this is the '6 degrees of Kevin Bacon' theory. Kevin Bacon has figuratively been in a billion movies; the idea is that any actor can be connected to him through 6 or fewer degrees (connections between actors). For example, Emma Watson was in The Perks of Being a Wallflower with Logan Lerman (1), who was in My One and Only with Kevin Bacon (2). The number of connections has come to be known as the 'Bacon number' - Emma Watson's Bacon number is 2. Google has incorporated this feature - just search any actor's name followed by the words 'Bacon number.'

Today I learned that I have a Bacon number! MY BACON NUMBER IS 4!

I played a singing, tap dancing cowboy in my high school's production of Crazy for You. (1)
(I'm the one kneeling in the front; the director is in the navy blue shirt)

The director of my high school drama department (and the play I was in) has been friends with Jim Parsons since they were in high school; they were also roommates at the University of Houston. Both of them were involved with Infernal Bridegroom Productions, a now-defunct theater company based in Houston (home of the country's 2nd-largest theater district). (2)

Jim Parsons and Billy Bob Thornton appeared in School for Scoundrels together... (3)

...and Billy Bob Thornton and Kevin Bacon starred in Jayne Mansfield's Car. (4)

April 12, 2013

Christmas

I've wanted to write about this for some time... and I finally start during a 3 hour layover in Phoenix!  Here's the thing... I had a terrific Christmas.  I'll give you just a FEW highlights:

1.  a combined young single adult church activity: Yule Ball

2.  reading A Christmas Carol with friends around the Christmas tree and fireplace DVD

3.  the Mormon Tabernacle Choir Christmas concert
(quite possibly the most Christmas-y thing I've ever experienced)


4.  two high school Christmas concerts at the beautiful Cypress Creek Christian Church

5.  being invited to a cowboy church's Christmas musical program
This place is legit - there's a horse arena in front, the chapel is decorated with cow hide and antlers, and the pastor is a former professional calf roper and steer wrestler.  Click to check out their website or sermon videos.

And finally, nothing gets much better than just spending time with friends and family back home.

April 9, 2013

Presently


i've been waiting for months
waiting for years
waiting for you to change
aw, but there ain't much that's dumber
there ain't much that's dumber
than pinning your hopes on a change in another

and i, yeah, i still need you, but what good's that gonna do? 
needing is one thing and getting, getting's another 

so i've been sitting around 
wasting my time 
wondering what you been doing 
aw, and it ain't real forgiving 
it ain't real forgiving 
sitting here picturing someone else living 

and i, yeah, i still need you, but what good's that gonna do? 
needing is one thing and getting, getting's another 

i've been hoping for months 
hoping for years 
hoping I might forget 
aw, but it don't get much dumber 
it don't get much dumber 
than trying to forget a girl when you love her 

and i, yeah, i still need you, but what good's that gonna do? 
needing is one thing and getting, getting's another


(Needing/Getting by OK Go)

April 4, 2013

Apathy

As a short in-class exercise, we wrote sensory poems in my writing class.  Everyone had to choose an abstract noun and describe it using the "five senses."


Apathy is a sort of off-white color; nothing too offensive, it goes with pretty much anything.

It smells old.  Not a bad smell, but not pleasant either.

It feels comfortable.  It feels nice enough that one can overlook its negative connotations.

It sounds like a long, hesitant groan.

Apathy has no flavor.

February 11, 2013

Confrontation

David and I prepared this for our ward's talent show tonight... I think it went over pretty well!  (Please forgive the wardrobe malfunction at the end.)  Thanks to Bethany for filming it.


February 7, 2013

Anniversary II

Well, it's been two years since I started this blog.  Here's another statistical report!  (Click here to compare to last year's.)

total pageviews:  2106

most-viewed posts:
     1.  The Niece
     2.  What's in a name?
     3.  Fun Fact

countries with most pageviews:
     1.  United States (1762)
     2.  Russia (141)
     3.  Germany (58)
     4.  Israel (14)
     5.  United Kingdom (10)

pageviews by browser:











pageviews by operating system:

January 12, 2013

Other blog is finished

So remember a few months ago when I mentioned I'd started a new blog as one of the requirements of a class I took? When I posted that, the other blog was brand new with only one post. Now that the class is over, I won't be adding anything to it; however, I wanted to mention it again here because now there are lots of interesting things to read!  Some of the posts are good, others maybe not so much.  But I think the quality improved as the semester wore on.

You can go to the blog by clicking here.

The class I took was 'Humanities of Latin America: Achievements of Latin American culture regarding art, philosophy, literature, and music from the pre-Columbian era to the present.' It's one of the best classes I've taken at BYU (in the top 3, for sure).